The Object of Our Desire

A couple of posts ago, I wrote about "desire." In that post, I said that our desires are not bad. That God gives us our desires and that we can live a life based on Desire not based on Duty.

The trouble is, often we focus those desires on the wrong object instead of where God intended us to focus them.  

A great example that most men can relate to is lust, often manifested as a struggle with pornography.  Lust is typically a search for affirmation, love, acceptance and beauty.  All of these are desires that are God-given, but the object is all wrong.  Those desires are intended to show us our deep need for an intimate relationship with God.  He is a God of love and beauty.  He offers affirmation and acceptance.

But instead we choose a substitute, the woman!  In essence we are committing Adam's original sin all over again.  

After Eve fell, Adam had a choice.  Does he follow after God or does he follow after the created being, Eve?  We all know the choice he made and many of us continue to make that same choice today.  

Many of us have tried to address this issue of lust by killing the desire.  Wrong approach!  This ultimately results in us killing our hearts. We flatline! We become passive!  

Men, the answer is to take those desires to God!  

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